Long Distance Relationships: Military
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It’s often heard that some students having family members serving for our country, but it’s not everyday that you hear about a high school student with a significant other in this situation.
Senior Trinity Rubio knows her relationship will change a bit once her boyfriend leaves for the Air Force. She was friends with Brian for a couple of years before they decided to start dating. Brian knew he wanted to join the Air Force for sometime, and Trinity was aware of his dreams.
Unlike some long distance relationships they will not be able to keep in touch through texting or video chatting.
“He’s not allowed to use any devices, so our relationship will solely rely on letters,” Rubio said. To some it may sound like too much of a challenge, but Trinity and Brian have talked it out and both are willing to make it work no matter the distance between them.
“I care enough to make this relationship work. I’ll put in the effort I need to keep this relationship alive, so I have faith in it being okay,” stated Rubio
Senior, Allie Bubalo, is currently in a long distance relationship with her long time boyfriend Geo. They’ve been together for a year and eight months.The distance has been on and off for the past five to six months. The longest time they’ve being apart was for 3 months during during boot camp, and the way they stayed in communication back then was with letters.
When he is home we try to see each other as much as possible, At least go out to lunch or dinner with each other to catch up.
Bubalo talked about what they do when they finally have time together, “While he’s gone we facetime every night and try to text throughout the day to stay in touch as much as possible. To make our long distance relationship work we try not to fight over little things and not get so mad that we ignore each other.”
Bubalo has learned that being in a relationship like this has made her gain more trust in her significant other.
“If you don’t have trust in them while you are together everyday, then during the long distance relationship it would be even harder to trust them”
Something Allie would want others who are currently in or about to enter a long distance relationship is that they need to learn to use communicate.
“ Don’t be afraid to try and work through problems even if you are not together in person. Holding in any issues you have with your significant other won’t make the long distance any easier. “
Senior, Jazmin Perez, has been in the shoes of someone dating a man in training. Jazmin’s boyfriend Neal was gone for Army training for 11 months, and even though it was difficult she believes that it strengthened their relationship.
“It taught us to be more independent, and once he came back it made us appreciate each other more. It also taught us a lot about patience.” Those 11 months did make the relationship stronger for Jazmin and Neal because despite the distance they’ve continued the relationship for three years now.
Jazmin shared some of her advice that isn’t only for someone dating someone in the services, but any type of long distance.
“I advise people to take their relationship seriously. Be patient and take every day one step at a time. Stay faithful to the person always. Never let a person sleep on their anger because distance makes everything escalate and overall just respect each other.”
Being in a relationship like this might be different than others, but they can all agree that communication and trust is the biggest thing needed to keep the relationship going.