Imagine spending all your time with the person you love. Devoting all your time and energy to that one person. But eventually someone doesn’t feel the same, bringing the whole relationship to an end. Break-ups can be one of the hardest things to deal with in my opinion. The thought that the entire time you spent with someone is just irrelevant now. There is more than one way to try and amend that broken heart, but which way will work?

The first thing that comes to mind is doing the cliche thing and eating your feelings. People often times find comfort in food and binge watching netflix shows. I can see how immersing yourself into something entertaining could distract you for a while and take away the pain, but a temporary fix is not the solution. Distracting oneself can only last so long, until there are no more seasons to a show or no ice cream left in the tub.

Another option is to fill that void with another person. Maybe dating someone else will be just like the previous person. This will also keep you distracted from the broken heart until something reminds you of your past relationship. Obviously this was never going to work out. Pretending that everything is fine by replacing something real with something fake? It may fill the void for some time, but not permanently.

The more mature option is sometimes people take comfort in reading uplifting quotes to realize their true worth and potential. For example, “Sometimes you have to walk away from what you want to get what you deserve.” I guess that makes sense, but in the moment, it will never feel that way. Even if you really want to believe that, you know that you miss that person.

My final solution, isn’t really a solution at all. I think that there really is not way to heal a broken heart. Losing someone you love is going to be difficult no matter what. Those other solutions may be temporary fixes, but all in all, you still lost that person in the end and they meant something to you. So all there is to do, is to wait. Giving it time is not a solution, but it is a start to moving on.